Type I Response

1. I feel pain
2. Someone just did something
3. I see what they did wrong
4. I blame them for my pain
5. It is because they are broken
6. I try to fix them
7. They do not let me
8. This implies they will cause me more pain
9. I escalate or run away
10. I need them to repent before I can feel safe

Type II Response

1. I feel pain
2. Someone just did something
3. I see what they did wrong
4. I take ownership of my pain
5. It is because their brokenness triggered mine
6. I bring that to Jesus
7. I ask Him which part of me is still tender from past wounds
8. I let His Blood speak healing into that wound
9. I receive grace and feel release
10. I speak grace to the ones who hurt me
11. I no longer fear that pain
12. Now I am ready to begin the hard work of reconciliation