Day 15: We’re Chosen To Fellowship Together — By Admitting Our Need For Each Other

Point to Ponder: I need other believers in my life and they need me.
Verse to Remember: “Since we are all one body of Christ, we belong to each other, and each of us needs all the others.” — Romans 12:5b (NLT)
Question to Consider: What might be keeping you from making a deeper commitment to your small group?
[Read More] thoughts on Day 15 of Rick Warren’s 40 Days of Community.

I must admit, I have a rather a contradictory approach to Fellowship. On the one hand, I’ve always placed a high mental, moral, and spiritual value on community, humility, and relationship. Certainly in my college years I was highly social, particularly with my church and fellowships. I have many deeply treasured friends from those years.

Yet, looking back, I sometimes wonder about the emotional depth of my commitment to community. Or, to put it another way, I freely admitted that I needed other people, but I had no clue about exactly how I needed them. I saw relationship largely as a matter of spending time, encouraging, and sharing intellectually — all good things. However, I think I missed a larger truth, about fellowship allowing God to use other people to complete us emotionally. Which of course implies both being aware of our own emotional needs, and being in a safe and appropriate place for those to be met.

The irony of my existence (well, one of many) is that much of the way I experience emotions is tied up with the issues of geek culture. Unfortunately, people outside geek culture have little awareness of those issues, and people within geek culture have little ability to deal with them: a classic Catch-22. I want to find a community that will both validate my pain and enable me to heal it. Alas, I may well have to create one .

Prayer: God, I confess that I need you and I need other people. I am wounded, damaged, and incomplete; I need to be part of your body to grow into all that You desire me to be. Lord, lead me into the kind of community that can accomplish Your purposes for my life. Help me to recognize the people you’ve already placed around me, as well as those I trust you will bring around me. Open my eyes, my ears, and most of all my heart. And my mouth — but only when necessary! In Jesus name I pray, Amen.