Radically Happy

How can we use our external triggers to create internal transformation with eternal impact?

“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the beam in your own eye?
How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a beam in your own eye?
You hypocrite, first take the beam out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.”‭

Matthew‬ ‭7‬:‭3‬-‭5‬

Phase 1: Speck

1. You do something that hurts, scares, or triggers me
2. I identify the “Speck” that is wrong with you
3. I hate the Speck, because it hinders:
   • My relationship with you
   • Your relationship with God

Phase 2: Beam

1. I notice my efforts to help you remove the Speck always backfire
2. I realize this is because of a Beam in my own eye
3. I grudgingly admit my Beam might be as bad as your Speck
4. I feel embarrassed for judging you
5. I feel shame because I don’t know what the Beam is, much less how to remove it

Phase 3: Cross

1. I recall being a disciple of Christ requires yielding the Beams of my self-identity to Him
2. I remember that this is precisely the excruciating Cross He calls me to bear today
3. I realize the reason I wanted you to bear a Cross for your Speck — was precisely so I didn’t have to bear one for my Beam
4. I reflect on how Jesus loved me enough to bear a Cross for me
5. I receive His forgiveness and freedom by identifying my need for Him to save me
6. I reunite with Him in ecstatic communion
7. I thank God for the Speck and the Beam, because the further I fall from Grace, the faster I fall in love with Jesus
8. I re-engage with you from a place of abundance and joy, rather than neediness and pain

Epilogue

I see Jesus

I see you
As Jesus sees me

You see me
Seeing you
As Jesus does

We are transformed
Together